Have you noticed how life has a unique sense of humor about the topic of happiness. Why else would happiness be something that almost everyone wants and covets, yet only a few ever realize in their lifetimes?
Happiness is a mental and emotional state characterized by feelings of well being and contentment.
In human evolution, the mechanisms that alert us to danger, the motivation to survive and reproduce are how we think of the humans who preceded our lives and time. Today we are still attuned to danger and sensitive to negativity, and much of our attention is not focused on fun or pleasure that reward the brain’s pleasure centers. To be happier, we have to intentionally focus on being happy and shifting into that emotional feeling. Would you be willing to ignite your brain’s reward center through happy feelings and train your brain? That question is food for thought.
Another similar joke that life plays on all of us is that happiness is often achieved by those who stop looking for that good feeling. This may seem counterintuitive at first. Yet when you read the common beliefs shared people who are happy, you’ll understand how those who don’t seek happiness are the most likely to find it!
Strategies For More Happiness
An Attitude of Appreciation is needed when we take certain parts of life for granted. We might take our basic foundations like our homes, educations, or foods for granted. Perhaps our lifestyles seem so normal to us that we forget the freedom our lifestyles provide.
People who are happy, seem to be content and appreciate of whatever they have.
While our ancestors’ aggression and alert instincts helped them survive, the positive emotions like feeling satisfied, happy, or content support our larger connection to members of our family, friends and communities. Perhaps one way to gauge your level of happiness is to cultivate a mindset and appreciation for happiness.
- The mindset in which you take nothing for granted will usually require no more than a shift in attitude. You won’t have to change anything about your external circumstances.
- To remind yourself to be appreciative, make it a point to reflect on everything that you’re thankful for once a day. Doing this as you fall asleep each night helps to brush your cares away as you fall into restful slumber, preparing the way for a great day tomorrow.
Be realistic about achieving goals. Expecting success overnight, unless you have just won the lottery, is a sure recipe for disappointment. Happy people are realistic and pragmatic when it comes to setting and achieving their goals.
- You can understand exactly how much time and effort may be required to achieve a goal, and if you fall short, you then put in the necessary additional work required to succeed
- People who are always happy also know that life offers no guarantees. As you put in additional time and necessary work to complete a task or goals, , remind yourself that the journey is enjoyable. Enjoying the journey practically predicts that you will be amazed with happiness as you work on the tasks. The completion or achievement means even more to you now.
- This may sound pessimistic, however, this is merely to state that they are aware of the possibility that external factors outside of their control could easily change outcomes. Being aware of this can help lessen the blow when unforeseen circumstances arise.
Put others first. Achieving happiness can sometimes be the opposite of what you might think. You may be wondering how you can bring yourself closer towards achieving happiness if you put others first. Putting others first is a normal trait for persons with Adaptive Supporter temperaments. Temperament traits such as creating, achieving, supporting, or problem solving are characteristic of each of the four temperament styles. Thus, if you are not of the temperament to put others first, then know that your ability to be happy is that you follow your inner motivation toward your goals.
- Putting other people first automatically requires you to have a more humble and appreciative outlook on life. In addition to this, making others happy will invariably bring more happiness into your own life.
If you take some time to begin integrating the above approaches into your daily living, you’ll find that happiness has always been just around the corner – waiting for you to discover it.
Why Happiness Is Elusive to Some People
Most Disney movies and young children’s storybooks end with “happily ever after.” If only real life mimicked the story book endings, but it does not. The busier and more complicated life has become over the last century, happiness seems more tangible, but also still elusive. Parents are not always the happiest when their children are toddlers or teens, the ages when kids need and needle their parents the most. Certainly more income or less income or earning ability defines happiness, but researchers have shown that this does not hold any weight. The point here is that most people have imagined happiness based on getting married, having more money, finding the ideal partner, and so forth. The imagined happiness scenarios are just like the Disney movies–fantasy!
The truths about happiness from solid research sources shows that good, lasting relationships make people happy. The connection with those you love prove that feeling safe, appreciated, and treated with respect are factors in why relationships support happiness. Experiences with others you enjoy create happy memories
Focusing your energy on making those experiences happen will also make you happy. So what about money, and great vacations, or a brand new wardrobe? Won’t those “things” make you happy? The answer is perhaps fleetingly. The focus of true happiness is still about…
- Investing in the relationships that make you happy.
- Spending money on experiences that make the relationship better.
- Investing yourself fully in the relationship experiences.
You can practice these steps and find yourself growing in happiness. You can cultivate experiences to make others happy or just set and achieve the goals that make you happy. The key is to recognize the moments of happiness and then create them again.
Using your intuition is like conducting a science experiment. You can take our word for it that it’s powerful chemistry, but wouldn’t you really rather turn on the flame under the Bunson burner and see for yourself?
Become your own consciousness coach by strengthening your connection to your intuition. Yes, you’ll need to do a little training. Don’t worry – no aerobics required! Instead, this article offers you some exercises that will sensitize you to your feelings and thoughts. Sensitivity is the first step in communicating with your intuition.
It’s best to choose a time when you won’t be interrupted to practice these exercises; your practice time will be more effective if you’re not distracted. Simply keep in mind that when you’re open and relaxed, you’re more receptive to the “voice” of your intuition.
Try This – The Tide Flows Images To You
Sit or stand, but make yourself really comfortable. Imagine that you’re facing the ocean. Bring the ocean fully into your senses. What does the ocean smell like? Does a breeze feel tingly on your skin? Is the sound of the ocean loud or soft?
The tides are high, rushing to shore and spreading all over the sandy beach. The ocean leaves its wet brush strokes for you to observe. Look and see the soggy brush strokes on the sand. Stare at them until the next tide breaks and changes the landscape. What do you see? Stay and observe as long as you can.
Next, focus on the waves themselves. Watch how the tide rolls in and out. Feel the rhythm of the tide within yourself. Breathe and open your abdomen fully. Feel the imaginary water moving in and out of you.
Do you feel pulled in and out like the wave? Ask the waves, “Waves, what images do you have for me?”
Try This – Lightning Strikes for You
If you’ve ever watched a storm when bright flashes sizzle the sky, then you know the power of the energetic activity in a bolt of electricity. You can access that energy for yourself, using lightning as a doorway.
Imagine that you are comfortably seated in an inviting chair that gives you a good view of the sky. Stare out of an imaginary window, and gaze at the sky as the thunderclouds roll before you. Lightning flashes, leaving its footprint-its light reflection-against the dark, heavy clouds.
Stare into that space, and the lightning flashes again. Hold the image of the lightning blaze in your mind and breathe the intensity and power of the lightning into you. Imagine the power in your gut, your nervous system. Imagine the energy the lightning activates in you!
Now that you feel and focus on the lightning flashes, ask for the images you need according to your intention.
Let Nature Teach You
You’ll get a tremendous benefit if you can take a walk or a special afternoon or weekend of retreat into nature itself to learn to soften and focus your vision as a gateway to deeper awareness and intuition. Nature imagery exercises are a good way to access intuition and to help you relax if you work long hours. Natural images are familiar and most people find them comforting.
There are several ways that you can let nature assist your intuitive connection.
Try This – Remembering Past Ah-Ha Moments
An Ah-Ha Moment is your natural intuition at work and at its best.
In a moment of flight over enemy lines, a World War Two pilot had a flash of insight – an “Ah-ha!” moment — about what he would do if he lived through that moment. He lived and now owns a large business conglomerate.
While vomiting in the alley behind the local neighborhood pub, an alcoholic wondered — “Ah-ha!” — what he could do to help himself. He saw his answer as a vision in his mind. The next morning he quit drinking and rehabilitated himself.
On the way to her office one morning, a real estate developer wondered what it would take to close a big deal. The answer — “Ah-Ha!” — arrived in her daydreaming while driving. If you would like to foster your intuition, take a trip down memory lane to an Ah-Ha Moment you’ve already experienced. Write in as much detail as possible what you remember-images, feelings, sensory awareness, and all the emotions that the moment stimulated.
Review what you’ve written. In reviewing, you’ll find clues to how your intuition works and how to become your own consciousness coach.
Try This – Your Intuition Journal
Some people keep dream journals. Those practicing and cultivating intuition keep Intuition Journals.
Give yourself fifteen minutes each day to check in with your gut and see if there is anything you need to be aware of. Just write down whatever comes and then go about your regular schedule.
After a week, you’ll begin to see patterns. You might notice that your intuition communicates in brief sentences, images, metaphors, caring advice or a soliloquy.
The Bottom Line
Be open to the idea that your intuition is giving you important information that you need to know. Ultimately, when you decide your need to know is so important that you can’t ignore intuitive signals, you’ll have made intuition a priority in your life.
If a strong feeling of certainty arises from your intuitive exercises, write it down. Ignore your intellect’s questions or judgments, and truly trust your gut-level feelings, images or awareness. Re-read all that has happened to you; observe how intuition has worked for you and how being incongruent did not.
Learn from experience that your intuitions are to be trusted
Hill Put Forth The Foundation for Spirituality
Feeling wealthy and blessed was a spiritual message by Napoleon Hill which has influenced people for decades. The famous author revealed the secrets of wealth in his 1937 classic Think and Grow Rich through:
- Creative imagination
Hill understood that thoughts are energy, and he put this understanding into practice. Throughout his book, he indicated that to acquire wealth, you must work with your power of thought, accompanied by positive emotional desires and persistent effort.
Now, leap into the Information Age and update Hill’s classic strategies with the science of the mind and body, called psychoneuroimmunology or PNI. This science and research of the human mind and body demonstrates the interactions between psychological processes, the nervous system, and the immune systems.. The new brain science with functional neuro-mapping through MRIs shows precisely where and how the brain corresponds to your feelings and thoughts and vice versa. The mind and emotions are not separate. Nature intended that the mind and body systems work in harmony for you to have the kind of life you desire and deserve.
The latest science presents the mind and body as one dynamic process of energy. Thoughts are energetic impulses. Emotions are energies providing feedback. Intuition is that hunch or gut feeling. When your inner spirit wants to get your attention, how do you become aware?
“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.” – Napoleon Hill
Have A Life Rich In Spirituality
A joyful life is a rich one. Indeed, the definition of rich has changed radically with the introduction of mind-body medicine and the public’s deepened interest in spirituality and longing for deepest joy. Some people interpret rich as being healthy and living in an environment where pollutants are not rampant. Another person considers rich to be accumulated material wealth. Still others consider rich to be living their spirituality beyond beliefs or attitudes. In other words, they recognize that they are spiritual beings having the human experience.
As larger numbers of people acquire a surplus of money at younger ages, there is a sociological trend toward seeking satisfaction of a spiritual nature. They yearn for an enriched life, which includes good health, harmony, longevity, and spirituality.
Have a Connection to Universal Consciousness
The Dalai Lama indicates that being a citizen of this century requires a connection to universal consciousness.
Being “rich” then becomes a spiritual deepening of our hearts, in addition to the material wealth we wish to accumulate. Just as health is more than an absence of disease, wealth is more than material accumulation. Spiritual wealth includes joyful emotions and optimal mental states as well.
“When you are able to shift your inner awareness to how you can serve others, and when you make this the central focus of your life, you will then be in a position to know true miracles in your progress toward prosperity.” ~ Wayne W. Dyer
Studies Suggest We Are Slowly Suffocating
- Air pollution may contribute to the development of asthma in previously healthy people.
- A recent Los Angeles study found that 8% of childhood asthma cases are a result of living within 250 feet to major roadways.
- The gains in lung function paralleled improving air quality in the communities studied, and across the Los Angeles basin, as policies to fight pollution took hold.
- The research appears in the March 5, 2015 issue of the New England Journal of Medicine.
- The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says that air pollution is causing an increase in respiratory illnesses, as much as 50% in some areas. The result is that asthma has grown into an epidemic in the United States. Breathing exercises that can help are often overlooked.affects 16.2 adults and 6.7 million children.
- The most common chronic childhood disease in the country affects 1 in every ten kids and links is now correlated with allergies.
- Common air pollutants slow children’s lung growth according to results of a comprehensive, ten-year study from the University of Southern California Children’s Health Study.
When the quality of our air is weak, we tend to breathe shallower, and we absorb more toxins.
The resulting rapid, shallow breathing leads to inadequate oxygen supply, respiratory disease, and fatigue. Parents may resort to the strongest medications to help their children breathe better and remain active. On the other hand, many parents are uneasy with the constant intake of medication and look for alternative ways to reduce their children’s need for bronchodilators and steroid-based drugs.
Solution: Breathing Exercises
The environmental facts speak openly about the necessity and urgency to take action and improve our breathing capacity. To enjoy health, we must enhance our breathing ability and understand that:
- Shallow breathing increases stress and anxiety.
- Deeper breathing exercises bring relaxation and the ability to manage better asthma episodes.
The first step in the breathing process is inhaling. After oxygen enters the lungs, it is picked up by hemoglobin in the blood and sent to all the cells. Once in the cells, oxidation, the method of combining the nutrients from food with oxygen, creates energy. Oxygen maintains cells and keeps them clean and healthy. At the same time, oxygen helps remove waste from the body and reduces inflammation. Breathing that is more efficient increases oxygen in the body.
Children are especially at risk for respiration difficulties because their growing bodies require oxygen. Moreover, their bodies must be capable of using that oxygen efficiently. Unless the muscles responsible for respiration are exercised through deep breathing techniques, the rib cage and surrounding tissues get stiff, which makes inhalation more difficult. Less suppleness and weak muscles leave stale air in the tissues of the lungs and prevent fresh oxygen from reaching the bloodstream. This stunts growth, depresses the immune system, and contributes to disease. By teaching children to breathe fully and deeply, you can positively impact their health for a lifetime.
First Graders Can Do It
The International Breath Institute helps you retrain poor breathing habits in a three-step breathing exercise called Full-Wave Breathing. Full-Wave breathing fights the toxins that pollute our cities by strengthening the lungs, relieving bronchitis, improving circulation, oxygenating the blood and minimizing the reoccurrence of respiratory ailments.
Research from the International Breath Institute shows that first-grade children, who sat for long periods of time in their seats, breathed shallower and shallower as the day progressed. Their postures slumped, and their eyes glazed. Learning cannot take place under such conditions.
But, when their teacher led them through deep breathing exercises for ten minutes each day after lunch, something amazing happened. They felt upbeat! They learned and concentrated more easily. They were relaxed and could shift attention without difficulty after recess. The first graders reminded each other to use their breath before each assignment, and they practiced breathing while walking in the hallway, which helped them not chatter and disturb others.[i]
Emotional Links to Allergies and Asthma
Emotional reactions affect our breathing.
Fear accelerates breathing.
Anger pumps our breathing like a spewing volcano.
Sadness and grief inhibit breathing.
Well-known asthma triggers are exercise, emotional stress or emotional excitement.
Shallow breathers are more anxious and impulsive.
Breathing is the only body function that we do involuntarily, and that we can voluntarily control. We can influence our autonomic nervous systems and positively affect other systems in the body like circulation, respiration, and digestion.
How people breathe affects their attitudes. Deep breathers are more relaxed and balanced. Shallow breathers are more anxious and impulsive. Full-Wave Breathing is a smooth and successful tool to help children develop better resilience and emotional strength!
You can’t breathe for your kids, but you can help them with breathing exercises to give them an extra edge in fighting illness every day. Use the Full Wave Breathing method with your children and you will see the difference it makes.
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Not all super successful people have the exact same skill sets. Yet the traits like happiness and positivity, of a successful person have been mapped in research studies. We can model…
How a successful person thinks?
Which trait of a successful person is proven to be the most effective in success?
How does this successful person handle failure? Does happiness elude them?
Is this successful person emotionally competent?
1) Successful People Visualize The Desired Outcome
Anyone who has become well-known understands that the first success trait of successful people is to visualize the perfect outcome. You probably already know what business, sport, relationship or activity in which you would love to excel. Think about the perfect situation where you have achieved all that you have ever dreamed of somewhere in the future. Then visualize the perfect scenario for you.
Any time you fill your head with images and visualizations of perfection and success, you feed your hunger to do whatever is humanly possible to reach your goals and live your dreams. There is scientific evidence indicating that you move physically towards your most dominant thought. Of all the traits of successful people, how they choose to focus on a specific goal, thought or image inspires them to move on that goal. What thoughts of success do you have that you can rank and make a commitment to focus on for your success? Write them down now.
2) Another Trait of A Successful Person Is Ownership of Failures
There are certainly some successful people who enjoy playing the blame game. However the most accomplished people, the ones that achieve truly incredible levels of success, give credit where credit is due. They exude positivity and happiness, and they are not afraid to admit they have failed. Owning failures is a transparent trait of emotional intelligence. Everyone has failed, and most accept failures as a part of life.
Legendary Texas oil and gas executive and billionaire T. Boone Pickens said the best single piece of advice he ever received was from his grandmother, Nellie Molonson. He claimed that many times as a child, his grandmother told him that sooner or later he was going “to have to sit on his own bottom.” She explained that the phrase meant there was no point in blaming others when he failed, and that nothing good would come from it.
Celebrated author and professional blogger Gretchen Rubin agrees wholeheartedly, saying, “To become a success you should always give credit where credit is due, and take the blame when you deserve it.”
3) The Next Trait of a Successful Person Is To Read
Whenever you see a picture of an incredibly successful person in his or her home office or business office, there are always bookshelves filled to overflowing.
The link is clear in the media perception that a successful person reads. Do they? Yes, reading journals, books, and industry reports is a trait of a successful person. That is because successful people understand the importance of constantly learning about the business, marketplace or endeavor in which they are dedicated to succeeding.
As Director for the National Year of Reading, Honor Wilson-Fletcher pointed out that reading anything relieves stress, improves communication skills and opens doors in business and personal relationships. Countless studies have also shown that consistent reading dramatically improves your chances of enjoying a successful career and life. Make it your goal to read something every day, especially specific reports and resources that pertain to the particular field in which you wish to succeed.
In summary, if you can emulate any one trait of a successful person listed here, then your practice is to choose one trait where you need more strength.
Then focus on it through visualization and move toward it.
The second action to be more successful is to intentionally make a list of your failures, read them and own them. If you feel that any remnant of emotion flares up, then act on it immediately in any of these steps: talk it through with a coach or friend; write out the feelings and words via longhand. The physical act of writing moves the energy of emotions out of you and relieves any tension.
Choose one trait of a successful person today and then focus, be free of blame and failure, and read to stay ahead of the trends in your field. These three steps are part of your success system and you are on your way now! The best is yet to come.