Being self-confident opens the gateway to success, to the life that you wish to lead, and to the dreams that you desire to live. Your achievements come from your ability to feel confident that you connect to your greater self. The ego-self is limited. Not so the greater self, and because you are connected, you can accomplish what you set out to achieve.
With such confidence in your universal connection, you can boldly progress towards your ambitions and aspirations. You can rise confidently in consciousness beyond limitations and handle life’s challenges. You can tackle any hurdle and move on to the next step of your journey to soul fulfillment. Being self-confident allows you to achieve your truest potential in your relationships, your work or career, finances, and self-image.
When you experience a lack of confidence, you might have temporarily forgotten that you are a spiritual being having a human experience. Nothing can stop you from striving for what you want. A lack of self-confidence can be the root of many complications and hardships that up until now, could block you from achieving your desires. Feeling adrift and without a spiritual anchor is like a thorn that bursts the bubble of hope.
You may have learned to lack confidence, and you can also learn to have unlimited faith. Being self-confident can be learned and formatted to suit all moments. Begin each morning by reminding yourself that you are a divine being, connected to all and to Infinite Intelligence.
The exercise I recommend is to sit and breathe in and out through your nostrils from a space 18” above your head and another space 18” below your feet, and into your heart. You can imagine that you are pulling energy from above (soul star chakra) and below (earth star chakra) and into your heart.
You will find that you become more and more comfortable and confident in multiple areas, including:
- Moving ahead in your career
- Starting your own business
- Embracing the risks of everyday life
- Refusing to be held back by fear
- Creating circumstances rather than waiting for them
- Smiling more and enjoying life
- Dramatically improving your health
Successful and dynamic people have gained mastery on how to feel courageous and confident. When you develop and build on your confidence skills, you, too, will feel and become a different person. You will feel much more enthusiastic, motivated and determined in every aspect of your life.
Once you improve the way you think and feel about yourself, your beliefs and your actions will follow. You will more easily overcome the challenges that life thrusts upon you, and you will manage them with new-found confidence and faith in your capability to do so.
As you become more self-confident, you abandon worry, hesitation and you side-step fear.
The focus here is on your whole being, every part of you: thoughts, mental images, emotions, and ultimately your behavior and the actual outcomes in life. All these improve your growing self-confidence.
Changes will occur when you focus daily on practicing being self-confident. Spend the few minutes daily, and you will feel your self-confidence growing and improving.
There is considerable power in knowing that you can succeed in your quest for a more significant life. Practice the exercise with awareness and consistency, and you will feel better and become the confident self.
Continue for one set of ten inhales and exhales. Increase the fullness of each successive breath and allow yourself to feel the resonance in the center of your chest. Feel the connection, the warmth and be assured that you are connected or “hooked-up.”
You can use this simple procedure throughout your day for an instant energy boost and to remind yourself, “Yes, I can.”
In fact, the subconscious mind does not know the difference between an image you see in your mind and an image you see in the physical world. It’s all the same to the brain when you focus ten minutes a day in better health. Using imagery and focused intention contributes 100% to vitality.
Only Ten Minutes a Day
You can have better health, meaning more energy and improving how you feel, by using your imagination. As you increase relaxation responses to lower the stress hormones that keep you on ALERT. You take charge of your energy and brain-body communication through purposeful imagery.
Try This for Better Health Right Now!
It’s a bright and warm Friday afternoon. You left a little early this day to go to your ATM to get some cash for the weekend activities. You check your bank balance to find the astounding sum of one million dollars. All those zeroes flash on the screen. Surprise lights up your eyes. Awestruck, you stare at the screen one more time to make sure its real. Passion wells up and laughter rolls through your body!
Now, hold that feeling. Inhale deeply and keep that feeling, then release your breath. Inhale, hold the feeling, and release. That is how you can improve your finances, your health, or your relationships in ten minutes a day. Right now, let’s create better health.
This exercise is an example of mental imagery—evoking a scene and a feeling–a dynamic combination. When you merge images and feelings that work for you, you can direct your energy and empower your results.
Better Health Needs Your Focused Awareness
Mental imagery makes you aware of your energy. You then can choose how to direct it towards an intention.
- Your intention is a requirement, the purpose for your spending ten minutes a day to better health. Intention focuses on the result you want: reduce stress, increase good feelings; disappear anger and be calm; focus on peace and banish negative thinking.
- Listen to the audio of the imagery. Another option is to listen to the Cosmic Waltz music that expands your energy and automatically entrains your nervous system to relax and create the scene mentally to merge.
- While within the imagery, strengthen the emotional association to better health and wellness through the inhale, hold the feeling, and then exhale gently.
Think of an image as a powerful emitter of your message to your environment. For example, you focus on one picture that supports your intention of joy—you are smiling, children laughing, ocean waves caressing the shore. You broadcast this image out into the world. Like any emission of energy, it will spread itself around, and your magnetic field will resonate with it.
So the question to ponder is: What do you want to send out through your energy field that resonates? What healthy image do you want to empower?
“Imagery is a very powerful psychological tool which can be used to enhance self-esteem, expanded awareness, facilitate psychological growth and integration, evoke inner wisdom, increase empathy, expand creativity, increase memory, facilitate optimal performance, evoke a more positive attitude, and accelerate the learning of subject matter.”
-Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul
Strengthen The Emotional Bond to Better Health
Imagery is the ability to visualize or mentally create pictures and feelings. Thoughts and feelings are not separate from each other. Thoughts are the emotional association, biochemical response in your body. A feeling or sensation triggers a corresponding chemical response in the brain. Imagery empowers your awareness and directs your body to better health and wellness.
Mindbody science has shown us that thinking about running a race triggers the same physical feelings as the act of running. Apparently running the race gives you the happiness, physical exercise, and tension release. Imagining that you feel vibrant and radiate optimism is the real dynamic to better health.
Lynn Joseph, Ph.D., a professional speaker and founder of Discovery Dynamics, calls “guided imagery a thought process that directs and focuses the imagination and involves the body, the emotions, and all the senses: vision, audition, smell, taste, and touch. Even if your absolute sense is not visual, you can still use guided imagery effectively by feeling deeply and sensing acutely.”
Imagery is YOUR powerful language of the subconscious. By choosing your images, you can program your subconscious mind for better health and wellness.
Two physical elements that you cannot live without, and that are abundant and practically free, will help you immensely as you aim to keep your heart healthy. They are air and water, or more specifically, clean air and clean cool water, which provide a solid foundation for the body’s needs. Breathing in fresh, clean air enables your heart to pump a rich supply of oxygen throughout your whole body. And drinking enough clean, pure water improves the quality of your blood, which in turn improves your heart health.
Let’s Talk About Air
Your body requires a good supply of oxygen to keep it running optimally. Literally, oxygen is food for your body. Benefits include:
• Cell regeneration
• Energy production
• Waste elimination
• Tissue detoxification
• Healthy brain activity
• Immune system maintenance
• Promotion of healing and recovery
• Natural calming effect
We all know that without oxygen, we die very quickly. Our body systems simply shut down. It makes sense, then, that ongoing low oxygen intake is equivalent to a slow death. This is why increasing your daily supply of oxygen should become one of your highest health-related priorities.
Thankfully, increasing your oxygen intake is well within your reach. It’s a matter of learning to breathe deeply. Unfortunately, as we grow older we develop the tendency to breathe shallower and shallower. It’s a mistaken notion that our lungs lose their capacity as we age. That’s simply not true. In actuality, we “forget” how to breathe deeply, and we tend to take shorter, shallower breaths that deprive our cells of oxygen and fail to use our full lung capacity.
Take a deep breath right now, then exhale slowly. Feel your lungs filling up. Feel every cell of your body energized by the oxygen. Feel yourself relax with every big breath you take. Therapeutic, isn’t it?
I’ve developed a form of deep breathing called Full Wave Breathing™ (FWB) that does wonders to increase your body’s oxygen intake. It’s an easy three-step process that you can learn quickly and master with regular practice. It involves breathing fully into your abdomen and maintaining a steady inhale-exhale flow with no pause in between. Your exhale is effortless and natural. You can breathe through your nose or mouth, whichever you prefer. Just be aware that breathing through your mouth can increase oxygenation by more than 50 percent.
You can download and print complete FWB instructions here. This is a great technique for working with children as well as adults. After downloading FWB instructions (they’re free), remember to practice this powerful technique daily. We’ll cover FWB more in future posts.
Many individuals have found Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy (HBOT or HBO) to be highly beneficial. HBOT involves flooding every cell of the body with oxygen. The individual lies down comfortably in a chamber and breathes normally. The pressurized chamber supplies 100% oxygen. Most sessions last from 45 minutes to two hours, with the person relaxing inside while breathing normally and listening to soothing music. This therapy is used extensively in Europe and in Russia, with positive results. It’s not as widely available in the United States yet; fewer than 400 American hospitals offer HBOT. But it is available.
Doctors and researchers have discovered that HBOT:
➢ Increases oxygen concentration in all body tissues
➢ Improves blood flow, even in regions with arterial blockages and also to compromised organs
➢ Stimulates growth of new blood vessels
➢ Enhances white blood cell action
➢ Successfully addresses chronic degenerative health problems.
For these reasons and others, HBOT is used around the world to treat a vast array of ailments. Conditions that have been successfully treated by this method include traumatic brain injury, stroke, fetal alcohol syndrome, coma, multiple sclerosis, autism, and sports injuries. More and more it’s being used for cardiovascular cases.
Spend some time researching Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy on the Internet. If you feel you might benefit from this form of therapy, then print the information that you find most useful and take it to your doctor. Discuss with him or her the potential benefits in your particular situation. This form of therapy is approved by Medicare for limited uses, including peripheral artery disease. Know also that private clinical services are available.
Let’s Talk About Water
Next we move on to water, another basic element that does wonders for your health and wellbeing. Over the years, you’ve repeatedly heard that it’s a good idea to drink at least eight glasses of water a day. Why is this important? Because the cells of your body, including your heart, need water to work properly. Your body is composed of water, and you lose water through natural functions like perspiration. It’s important to replenish this water daily.
Sufficient water intake helps with your digestion, keeping your skin hydrated, helping your body absorb nutrients from food, and detoxifying your cells. In addition, drinking enough water can stave off a wide range of maladies, from headaches to exhaustion to even kidney stones!
What’s more, drinking plenty of water can lower your risk of getting heart disease for a number of reasons. Here are several:
- Being marginally dehydrated affects your blood’s viscosity, or thickness, which can raise blood pressure and increase heart attack risk.
- When the body doesn’t get enough water, it “closes off” some capillaries. This restricts the flow of blood and causes blood pressure to rise in order to keep the blood circulating through.
- Water contains minerals, such as magnesium, which help keep the heart healthy.
- By drinking plenty of water, you flush toxins out of your system more quickly. This, in turn, helps keep your blood cleaner, so to speak. Healthier blood circulating through your body keeps your heart healthier, too.
A study conducted by the Loma Linda University Medical Center in California found that drinking enough water every day significantly reduces the risk of coronary heart disease. Findings showed that healthy men who drank at least five glasses of water a day had a 54% decrease in the risk of fatal coronary heart disease compared to men who drank only two glasses of water. For women, the risk was lowered by 41%. Researchers believe this is due to the fact that drinking plenty of water thins the blood, which reduces the risk of developing blood clots.
Tap water is good, so long as you filter it to remove harmful substances such as fluoride and chlorine. A faucet-type filter can remove most impurities and you’ll need to keep it clean.
It’s best to drink plain water; juices, milk, teas, and sodas do not have the same effect as plain water does. They do count as part of your daily consumption unless they are diuretic in nature. Bottled water is also a good option for drinking; although, it has some negative implications for the environment. Make the choice that makes sense for you!
Nourish your vitality, mind, and emotions when you eat. Not everything you are tempted to put into your mouth is nutritious. Most processed, treated, and refined foods lack nutritional value. The chemicals and preservatives disrupt communication in your mind-body-spirit system. Processed foods are high in salt, sugar, and unhealthy fat. In other words, they offer a lot of what you don’t need and very little of what you do.
Since these foods are typically void of nutrition, we eat them to fill other needs. Their consumption is often rooted in cravings, which may be for a certain taste, emotional comfort or because we are thirsty. Do you acknowledge these alternative reasons for eating? Observe yourself and your diet to identify any patterns.
- Do you eat when you are happy? Sad? Bored? Lonely?
- Do you crave sugar? Salt? Spices?
- Are you confusing thirst with hunger?
Pinpointing these patterns help you to develop strategies for coping with them. In turn, these strategies are your guides to a lifetime of good health and feeding your body with intention and nutrition.
There are five types of taste. Sweet, sour, salty, astringent, and bitter. At different times, the body will seek them all out. Many people are familiar with the desire for something sweet after a meal or a salty snack in the afternoon. These cravings are based on taste, not nutrition.
Scientists have proven that on an average, cravings last approximately fifteen minutes. Even though you feel as if you won’t last another second without a cookie, it simply isn’t true. If you can occupy your mind with deep breathing or another activity until the craving passes, you will survive.
The Ayurvedic lifestyle also offers a strategy to deal with taste-based cravings. According to these ancient teachings, the best way to solve the problem of eating for taste is to nourish all of these sensations in every meal. Look for natural sources of each taste and combine them to satisfy your food cravings before they begin. Your meals could include a variety of foods from each taste group. This includes sweet fruit, astringent herbs, sour yogurt, salty cheese, and bitter spinach. This may require that you begin to see foods differently, but that is an inevitable byproduct of feeding your body with intention. Food becomes fuel, not an answer to a craving.
The human body is 70% water. Good health requires that you remain hydrated. Most people don’t drink enough water and when this occurs, the body sends you a signal. Often this signal is misinterpreted as hunger. So before you hit the food, drink a glass of water. This may be just what your body needs. And giving your body what it needs is the basis for proper nutrition.
Some cravings are emotionally based. Throughout your life, you may have associated food with a number of situations, which, in turn, became automatic responses. If as a child, you were treated to a bowl of ice cream when you were sad, chances are as an adult you will repeat this pattern to nourish your self. The ice cream made you feel better then, so you assume it will make you feel better now. It often does for a little while. However, in the end, you are still left with an unresolved situation or emotion. The only thing you fed was your sweet tooth, and as we all know what it wants is hardly ever nutritious.
Our world is a highly stressful one and many people turn to food as an escape. Like the emotional eating described above, eating to release stress is only a temporary fix. It does not offer you valid emotional or nutritional value. Instead of reaching for the chips, reach for a pad and pencil. Help yourself learn to deal with your emotions by making a list under the heading Emotions I Would Feel If I Allowed Myself To Do So. Write down any emotion, positive or negative, that you feel you are holding back. Your list could include anger, joy, guilt, sadness or love. When you eat out of stress or for comfort, you are using food to stuff these emotions back inside.
Now go down your list and allow yourself to really feel each emotion. Use deep belly breathing to help yourself focus and center. This process teaches that these emotions are a part of you with a need to be expressed. You owe it to yourself and your health to freely express your emotions without fear or shame. Once you accomplish this, you may find that open communication is more satisfying than cookies, cake or any other foodstuff you would have previously reached for.
Keeping your heart healthy makes it a timekeeper for your life. Your timekeeper requires more than just taking physical care of your heart and body. In my last post we looked at how to have a healthy heart. In my next several posts, I will share taking a more holistic approach to heart health.
Think of your heart as a physical entity, affected by physical, mental, and spiritual factors. Keep in mind also that the mental association between love and your heart is so powerful that you can use this concept for your benefit. As you read this, remember PEMS – physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Know that the connection between love and your heart is so great that it can generate powerful chemical changes – a physical manifestation that originates from a feeling of love.
These chemical changes, in turn, produce cellular relaxation that results in cellular regeneration. Cells always have two possible states: open or closed, expanding or contracting, renewing or dying.
- If you had a choice about the state your cells were in, which would you choose–robust or atrophy?
- And how would that benefit your heart physically?
As you explore physical ways to keep your timekeeper healthy, keep your thoughts positive and encouraging. Keep your feelings grounded in love. Do this, and you will renew the physical cells that make up your heart.
Reducing Stress on the Timekeeper
Reducing stress is critical to restoring and maintaining a healthy heart!
Great news here. You have plenty of non-drug stress interventions to choose from. They include deep breathing, biofeedback, yoga, support groups, vacations, hobbies, even your family pets! What is required is for you to set aside a time for your activity and to establish a regular routine or ritual around its performance.
It requires an act of self-love for you to follow through on your plans. Yes, you must put your health in a place of importance in your life. Can you care enough about your life to gain more of it?
This is a great time to take out your journal and seriously consider this question. As part of the emotional and spiritual maintenance that is necessary for heart health, ask yourself whether or not you are worth it? What’s stopping you from keeping your heart healthy? We often sabotage our own health for a variety of reasons. You need to examine these reasons if you want your timekeeper to stick around!