3 Steps to Happiness

3 Steps to Happiness

Have you noticed how life has a unique sense of humor about the topic of happiness.  Why else would happiness be something that almost everyone wants and covets, yet only a few ever realize in their lifetimes?

Happiness is a mental and emotional state characterized by feelings of well being and contentment.

In human evolution, the mechanisms that alert us to danger, the motivation to survive and reproduce are how we think of the humans who preceded our lives and time. Today we are still attuned to danger and sensitive to negativity, and much of our attention is not focused on fun or pleasure that reward the brain’s pleasure centers. To be happier, we have to intentionally focus on being happy and shifting into that emotional feeling. Would you be willing to ignite your brain’s reward center through happy feelings and train your brain? That question is food for thought.

Another similar joke that life plays on all of us is that happiness is often achieved by those who stop looking for that good feeling.  This may seem counterintuitive at first.  Yet when you read the common beliefs shared people who are happy, you’ll understand  how those who don’t seek happiness are the most likely to find it!

Strategies For More Happiness

An Attitude of Appreciation  is needed when we take certain parts of life for granted. We might take our basic foundations like our homes, educations, or foods for granted. Perhaps our lifestyles seem so normal to us that we forget the freedom our lifestyles provide.

People who are happy, seem to be content and appreciate of whatever they have.

While our ancestors’ aggression and alert instincts helped them survive, the positive emotions like feeling satisfied, happy, or content support our larger connection to members of our family, friends and communities. Perhaps one way to gauge your level of happiness is to cultivate a mindset and appreciation for happiness.

  • The mindset in which you take nothing for granted will usually require no more than a shift in attitude. You won’t have to change anything about your external circumstances.
  • To remind yourself to be appreciative, make it a point to reflect on everything that you’re thankful for once a day. Doing this as you fall asleep each night helps to brush your cares away as you fall into restful slumber, preparing the way for a great day tomorrow.

 

Be realistic about achieving goals. Expecting success overnight, unless you have just won the lottery, is a sure recipe for disappointment. Happy people are realistic and pragmatic when it comes to setting and achieving their goals.

  • You can understand exactly how much time and effort may be required to achieve a goal, and if you fall short, you then put in the necessary additional work required to succeed
  • People who are always happy also know that life offers no guarantees. As you put in additional time and necessary work to complete a task or goals, , remind yourself that the journey is enjoyable. Enjoying the journey practically predicts that you will be amazed with happiness as you work on the tasks. The completion or achievement means even more to you now.
  • This may sound pessimistic, however, this is merely to state that they are aware of the possibility that external factors outside of their control could easily change outcomes. Being aware of this can help lessen the blow when unforeseen circumstances arise.

Put others first. Achieving happiness can sometimes be the opposite of what you might think. You may be wondering how you can bring yourself closer towards achieving happiness if you put others first. Putting others first is a normal trait for persons with Adaptive Supporter temperaments. Temperament traits such as creating, achieving, supporting, or problem solving are characteristic of each of the four temperament styles. Thus, if you are not of the temperament to put others first, then know that your ability to be happy is that you follow your inner motivation toward your goals.

  • Putting other people first automatically requires you to have a more humble and appreciative outlook on life. In addition to this, making others happy will invariably bring more happiness into your own life.

If you take some time to begin integrating the above approaches into your daily living, you’ll find that happiness has always been just around the corner – waiting for you to discover it.

Why Happiness Is Elusive to Some People

Most Disney movies and young children’s storybooks end with “happily ever after.” If only real life mimicked the story book endings, but it does not. The busier and more complicated life has become over the last century, happiness seems more tangible, but also still elusive. Parents are not always the happiest when their children are toddlers or teens, the ages when kids need and needle their parents the most. Certainly more income or less income or earning ability defines happiness, but researchers have shown that this does not hold any weight. The point here is that most people have imagined happiness based on getting married, having more money, finding the ideal partner, and so forth.  The imagined happiness scenarios are just like the Disney movies–fantasy!

The truths about happiness from solid research sources shows that good, lasting relationships make people happy. The connection with those you love prove that feeling safe, appreciated, and treated with respect are factors in why relationships support happiness. Experiences with others you enjoy create happy memories

Focusing your energy on making those experiences happen will also make you happy. So what about money, and great vacations, or a brand new wardrobe? Won’t those “things” make you happy? The answer is perhaps fleetingly. The focus of true happiness is still about…

  • Investing in the relationships that make you happy.
  • Spending money on experiences  that make the relationship better.
  • Investing yourself fully in the relationship experiences.

You can practice these steps and find yourself growing in happiness.  You can cultivate experiences to make others happy or just set and achieve the goals that make you happy. The key is to recognize the moments of happiness and then create them again.

 

 

 

 

The Most Important Trait of a Successful Person

The Most Important Trait of a Successful Person

Not all super successful people have the exact same skill sets. Yet the traits like happiness and positivity, of a successful person have been mapped in research studies. We can model…

How a successful person thinks?

Which trait of a successful person is proven to be the most effective in  success?

How does this successful person handle failure? Does happiness elude them?

Is this successful person emotionally competent? 

1)   Successful People Visualize The Desired Outcome

Anyone who has become well-known understands that the first success trait of successful people is to visualize the perfect outcome. You probably already know what business, sport, relationship or activity in which you would love to excel. Think about the perfect situation where you have achieved all that you have ever dreamed of somewhere in the future. Then visualize the perfect scenario for you.

Any time you fill your head with images and visualizations of perfection and success, you feed your hunger to do whatever is humanly possible to reach your goals and live your dreams. There is scientific evidence indicating that you move physically towards your most dominant thought. Of all the traits of successful people, how they choose to focus on a specific goal, thought or image inspires them to move on that goal. What thoughts of success do you have that you can rank and make a commitment to focus on for your success? Write them down now.

2) Another Trait of  A Successful Person Is Ownership of Failures

There are certainly some successful people who enjoy playing the blame game. However  the most accomplished people, the ones that achieve truly incredible levels of success, give credit where credit is due. They exude positivity and happiness, and they are not afraid to admit they have failed. Owning failures is a transparent trait of emotional intelligence. Everyone has failed, and most accept failures as a part of life.

Legendary Texas oil and gas executive and billionaire T. Boone Pickens said the best single piece of advice he ever received was from his grandmother, Nellie Molonson. He claimed that many times as a child, his grandmother told him that sooner or later he was going “to have to sit on his own bottom.” She explained that the phrase meant there was no point in blaming others when he failed, and that nothing good would come from it.

Celebrated author and professional blogger Gretchen Rubin agrees wholeheartedly, saying, “To become a success you should always give credit where credit is due, and take the blame when you deserve it.”

3) The Next Trait of a Successful Person Is To Read

raise-to-successWhenever you see a picture of an incredibly successful person in his or her home office  or business office, there are always bookshelves filled to overflowing.
The link is clear in the media perception that a successful person reads. Do they? Yes, reading journals, books, and industry reports is a trait of a successful person. That is because successful people understand the importance of constantly learning about the business, marketplace or endeavor in which they are dedicated to succeeding.

As Director for the National Year of Reading, Honor Wilson-Fletcher pointed out that reading anything relieves stress, improves communication skills and opens doors in business and personal relationships. Countless studies have also shown that consistent reading dramatically improves your chances of enjoying a successful career and life. Make it your goal to read something every day, especially specific reports and resources that pertain to the particular field in which you wish to succeed.

In summary, if you can emulate any one trait of a successful person listed here, then your practice is to choose one trait where you need more strength.

Then focus on it through visualization and move toward it.

The second action to be more successful is to intentionally make a list of your failures, read them and own them. If you feel that any remnant of emotion flares up, then act on it immediately in any of these steps: talk  it through with a coach or friend; write out the feelings and words via longhand. The physical act of writing moves the energy of emotions out of you and relieves any tension.

Choose one trait of a successful person today and then focus, be free of blame and failure, and read to stay ahead of the trends in your field. These three steps are part of your success system  and you are on your way now! The best is yet to come.

 

 

 

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